I was discussing something on Twitter about marriage and someone asked me, what keeps both of you going after all these years? Without a blink, my answer was “adjustment”.
Well, it’s true. When it comes to relationships, adjustment is the most important thing. This is not just limited to marriage, it holds true for any relationship. Be it, relationship with parents, job, business etc..
I always tell people that, 5 fingers are not equal and the same way no 2 people are equal. But as a human, we need to understand each other’s strength & weaknesses and handle situations accordingly.
My weakness can be anger or even ego but if my partner behaves exactly same way then it may just add fuel to the fire. Like Mahatma Gandhi said, “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind“
Most of us fail to realise this and it ends up putting cracks in relationship. I understand, no one is perfect, even I am far from being one. As a couple, we also argue many times but instead of arguing further, One of us generally keeps quiet and end the discussion. This actually helps us in some ways, it gives us enough space to calm down and re-think whether was it even worth arguing about it? Most of the times, we end up arguing and reacting on silly things.
Also, we also must keep in mind, adjustment must not be taken as weakness. There is no scope of adjustment in abusive relationships, the most important thing in any relationship is dignity. This is the one and only rule of relationship. There is no point in dragging yourself in a relationship which lacks respect for each other.
Also, I am no guru advising people about relationships, just learning & sharing experiences in life at different stages.